Going out to work or running errands

Going out to work or running errands

Ex-partners know a lot about their victims; where they work, who they socialise with, where they shop, work out etc.

It is important that you take care of your safety, even if you have moved away from your abuser.

Try to vary your routines.


  • It can be difficult to change your morning routine when going to work, and consider using different routes. Go in early and have breakfast out.
  • Make plans to do things straight after work so you don't arrive home the same time every day.
  • Ask your employer if you can park close to the building preferably where your car can be monitored.


  • Don't do the shopping at the same time every week. Consider having groceries delivered.
  • Try to avoid running errands at night when it is dark.
  • Don't listen to music or talk on your mobile while walking. You need to stay aware of your surroundings


  • Have people around to your house for dinner party, girls night in.
  • When going out, have friends pick you up and bring you home.
  • If you are meeting up with people and have to wait, pick a well lit area and if possible one covered by CCTV.
  • Don't provide an opportunity for someone to tamper with your drink.
  • Don't drink too much when you go out - you need to be alert and aware.


  • Always park in a well light, secure area close to exits.
  • If you aren't sure where you are going, use Google maps to plan where to park.
  • Consider what you would do if someone tampered with your car. Get breakdown assistance. Stay in your locked car until help arrives.
  • Keep emergency supplies in your car a torch, bottle of water, mobile phone charger, a little money and a blanket.

Get to know your neighbours

  • Ask them to watch your house for any suspicious people.
  • If you know your stalker or their car give a description to your neighbours
  • Ask them to help you gather evidence by noting down times or taking pictures.


  • Carry a personal alarm, mobile phone and have keys ready to use.
Look at your home like your abuser would

Look at your home like your abuser would

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