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How to use use social media more safely

How to use use social media more safely

  1. Create an anonymous user ID (nickname). Anyone can read a profile page.
  2. Check what information is publicly available on your profile by doing a search on the website without logging in.
    • Don’t use your first and last name.
    • Don't fill out the profile information, it is all searchable today.
    • Don't post phone numbers, emails home or work.
    • Don't include your location of home or work.
    • Use at least two e-mail addresses – one for websites registration and one for personal use.
  3. Block the abuser and any of their friends and family. They can look at your public profile using another id but not their original account.
  4. Use the privacy setting so only friends can see your information. Go through all the options and tick each one individually. Don’t allow tagging.
  5. Accounts like Twitter or Instagram consider making them private
  6. Don’t use a password which the stalker can guess. Create a random password. Try using a password manager like LastPass
  7. Turn off geolocation services on your camera settings and any social media you use. If not sure how go to the social media website help pages.
  8. Don't add strangers or new friends on your ‘friends list’ unless you confirm that they are really who you think they are and not simply the stalker impersonating your friend.
  9. Share cautiously – think carefully about what you post online. A friend could forward it to others or the abuser may be able to see posts on friend’s wall. Be very careful about sharing personal contact information, location , talking about new relationships etc. See our advice
  10. Delete comments/information – delete information or inflammatory comments on your wall that could provide the abuser important information or inflame the situation. If you need to vent, do it in private by calling or e-mailing a friend.
  11. If the abuser posts harassing or threatening messages take a screen shot for evidence.
  12. Photos – don’t post sexually suggestive pictures,or information about new partners – they could provoke your abuser. Also be aware that photos can provide clues where you can be found you e.g. at a favourite restaurant.
  13. Don't let people take pictures on a mobile because they can be uploaded to the internet or distributed via e-mail. Those pictures could have a geolocation tag and the stalker can tell the exact location where the photo was taken.
  14. Set your privacy settings so friends can’t tag you in photos and untag yourself in any existing photos.
  15. Check what your friends are posting/saying about you. Even if you are careful, they may still accidentally post something they shouldn't.
  16. Tell your friends that you are being abused, educate them about the risk of your information getting to the abuser and ask that they block the stalker, their friends and family.
  17. Ask them to review their own privacy settings so it is limited to just ‘friends’
Be careful what you share online or via apps

Be careful what you share online or via apps

Coercive Control Behaviours

Coercive Control Behaviours