Partner abuse is focused around control. They use different tactics emotional, psychological, financial, threats or physical abuse. You will have experienced hundreds of incidents of different types of abuse. Victims are conditioned to respond, it's confusing and becomes difficult to determine what is normal or appropriate behaviour. The information below gives you information about abuse and there is a free e-book on coercive control. You may need to read these more than once as you begin to relate it to your own experience. We also urge you to get help from your local DV support group and report incidents to the police.