Five Types of Stalkers
- Intimacy seeker – imagines fantasies about a relationship.
- Incompetent suitors – seek sexual relationships, are unattached males, social ineptness exhibits in odd behaviour.
- Rejected - begins with the end of relationship. They initially want to reconcile and then can become resentful and often fluctuate between the two. The stalking creates an opportunity for contact and becomes a substitute for the lost relationship
- Resentful – passed over for promotion or could be legitimate, discriminated against but feel they have no power or recourse. Desired by motivation for retribution and sustained by the feeling of power and control for once.
- Predatory - the predatory stalker is sadistic. They gain thrill planning and carrying out the stalking. They enjoy the sense of control and power stalking gives them. It is the is the violent sexual fantasies while they are researching, planning, and following the victim that excites them as they prepare for the ultimate thrill – the sexual assault itself. Serial rapist and peadeophiles are predatory stalkers.
Source: Stalkers and their Victims, Mullen Pathe and Purcell
One of the most dangerous stalkers are predatory stalkers. But male ex-partners who were abusive in their relationship AND who suffer from delusions of jealous. They are convinced that their partner left them for someone else or they are going to find a new partner. The stalker thinks if I can't have her then no one can.
However, all stalkers have the potential to cause physical harm. Victims should take precaution to increase their personal and digital security. They should also advise close friends and family to do the same as stalkers will also target those close to the victim.
Common traits of Stalkers
Stalkers aren't evil looking people. They are often very ordinary, charming and intelligent. They are very convincing and able to manipulate others. They often have several of the following characteristics:
- Falls "instantly" in love
- Can switch between rage and "love"
- Sense of entitlement
- A bully
- Blames others for his problems
- Views themself as a victim of circumstances, society, family etc.
- They need others to give them their identity or sense of "self"
- Can't take no for an answer
- Has problems distinguishing reality from fantasy
- It is never his fault
Do you need help with a stalker?
Stalking is serious but misunderstood by police, criminal justice and domstic violence professionals. Stalking raises the risks for both physical and persistent abuse. Stalking risk assessments helps victims to understand what is happening and how to take action against abuse. A stalking risk assessment can also be useful to provide to the police and courts to help them identify the pattern of stalking behaviour.
There is an option to also have a safety plan done at the same time. This will help to identify both physical and digital risks and provide recommendations.
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